Ok, well flame and some other helpers from Computer hope might remeber me posting about my Netgear DG834G, anyway i now have the problem solved (after much hair less :s ). Anyway i thought other people after my incident could learn from this, so here goes. If you have a wireless Netgear DG834G, run AOL and have connection issues that end up in you getting randomly disconnected the chances are it your AOL. We took our pc to a specialist and as soon as we said AOL he groaned. He told us that he had fitted many DG834G's and had many issues with them and AOL. However we are still on AOL as an isp but use IE for the browsing. As soon as we connect to AOL it disconnects. We will soon be changing ISP!!!
I hope i have been of some use to other people who have the same issue.
Thanks, chris!!!!